July 7, 2009 When this whole thing started, someone made a comment to me that an ordeal like this will let you know who your true friends are.
I have no idea what they were talking about.
We’ve had nothing short of an outpouring of friendship and love in the last month. When I look around me I see friends everywhere. Right now, there are 455 fans of Tanner’s “Friends of Tanner” Facebook page and I know there are more who log directly on to Tanner Time. Some of those people we haven’t seen for a while — college friends, former co-workers, family friends and whatnot. Some we see lots. Some are acquaintances. And, some we’ve never met. But, here’s the thing; anyone who loves my daughter enough to check in on her every couple of days, who cares enough about us to send us heartfelt words of encouragement that help us get through the day, who offers to help even when we don’t realize we need it… anyone who does these kinds of things is a friend in my book. What else could you ask for from a friend, right?
In the last month, we’ve reconnected with some people that we haven’t seen in a while. They’re the kind of people with whom you pick right up where you left off, as if no time had passed at all. They love our kids… and us, and we love them. They invite us to dinner at their houses, since they know we can’t go out to eat; they bring us brownies and blue powerade; they knit hats for Tanner’s impending bald head. Their kids treat our daughter with kindness, gentleness and love.
Then, there are those that have always been here for us. The friends we see every week, and know, without even asking, that they are at the ready when we need them. They watch Jake so both John and I can go to Clinic with Tanner, they come over and sit in our house after the kids have gone to bed so John and I can take a walk together, they carry my tired child across the street at the end of the night, and they drop by with crafts to remind Tanner she isn’t forgotten.
We are lucky beyond all understanding.
So, maybe what that person said to me was true… an ordeal like this really will let you know who your true friends are. I am humbled to say ours are somewhere around 600 strong and growing.